First of all, I'd like to emphasize on the great job FSL team did on the matter. I, in no way state, that current FSL Flight Control system is wrong or incomplete.
Every simmer has a different hardware. The real A32X has extremely difficult to replicate sidestick as it has a staged pneumatic damping by itself. The real "hardware" provides very specific feels and relies on muscle memory. As such, everyone's perception for it's operation may differ. Even among real pilots. We use different techniques, fly in different companies, at different weights and in different conditions. Me, as a real A319 (in the past), A320 (current) and A321 (current) pilot would like to provide my personal vision as to how i perceive the feeling of the A32X flight controls. For me*, the following guide provides closer to the real A/C feel, especially during LANDINGS.
*the guide is based on Logitech Extreme 3D joystick. It should be applicable to similarly cheap and low range sticks and probably will have NEGATIVE results on high-end, high range, more expensive joysticks.